Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Your mental health has a great impact on your ability to form and maintain relationships, whether it be with a spouse, parent, child, or friend.
Here are five tips tips on building  and maintaining healthy relationships:

1) Don’t sweat the small stuff. Sometimes, we lose the ability to celebrate our victories by often focusing only on our faults and failures. Always make an attempt to look at the bigger picture, including the things you are doing well in!


2)  Accept and celebrate differencesOne of the biggest challenges we experience in relationships is that we are all different. Coming from different backgrounds and being exposed to different things in life, sometimes can lead us to expectations that people will think like we do and, in this way, it is so much easier to create a rapport. Life would be so much easier if everyone totally understood where we were coming from. However, it would also be very dull if we were all the same and, while we may find it initially easier, the novelty of sameness soon would wear off. So accepting and celebrating that we are all different is a great starting point.

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3) Express Yourself. Express your feelings; I cannot stress this enough! Keeping your feelings inside (whether good or bad) is never a great idea. Talk it out, release your thoughts, worries, and concerns. Holding your emotions in will eventually cause bad feelings to accumulate and further damage your relationships. Communication occurs when someone understands you, not just when you speak. One of the biggest dangers with communication is that we can work on the assumption that the other person has understood the message we are trying to get across. Developing effective communication skills is vital in maintaining relationships that are important to us.


4) Develop empathy.  Empathy and understanding build a connection between people. It is a state of perceiving and relating to another person’s feelings and needs without blaming, giving advice or trying to fix the situation.

5) Sometimes, being present is all that is required. Being present in the time you give to people is also important, so that, when you are with someone, make every attempt to truly be with them and not dwelling in the past or worrying about the future. This may also require stepping away from technology and putting our phones aside.clasped-hands-comfort-hands-people-45842

Six Tips For Healthier Natural Hair

  1. 1. Avoid Overspending on Products

When I first transitioned back to being natural, I would order every product posted on Instagram, and leave Target and Walgreen with bags full of hair products only to try them once or twice and add them to my shelf of “nah, not that one”. I ended up spending hundreds on products that did not match well with my hair and were often overpriced. Avoid overspending on different kinds of products. While it’s tempting to stockpile various natural hair products (especially if you’re just transitioning your hair), you might be wasting money on things you don’t actually need. I would spend hours on YouTube, watching girls giving amazing reviews for products that never seemed to work for me. It’s best to instead, only take advice from someone who has a similar texture to yours. Choosing products for your hair type is important and makes a big difference in hair growth and strength. Incorporate one new product at a time in order to determine effectiveness.pexels-photo-763191

2. Condition

One of the best things you can do for natural hair is conditioning.  This includes conditioning in the shower, deep conditioners and leave in conditioners. Leave-in conditioners are a great way to re-hydrate and bring moisture to otherwise dull lifeless hair.pexels-photo-573317

3. Cool Rinse

As girls, we are known for our love of hot showers. Quite frankly cold showers are not fun to anyone. However, when rinsing your hair it’s best to use cool or cold water.  Heat from the hot water essentially melts off all the conditioning elements when rinsed with hot water. The cooler temperatures allows all the ingredients of your conditioner   to stick to your hair for a longer-lasting effect. No matter how great the ingredients or how much you spend on the product, it is useless if you’re literally washing it down the drain.shower-shower-head-water-drop-of-water-161502.jpeg

4. Detangling

To avoid hair from becoming matted and tangled which will result in hair loss, detangle while in the shower with hair fully saturated in conditioner. The equipment used on hair such as heat, combs, and brushes are just as important as the products. Find the right comb or Denman brush for your hair texture, section hair into small parts and detangle with patience and care.


5. Styles and techniques

Stick to the pyramid. This hair pyramid categorizes things that we do to our hair and recommended frequency. Avoid tight ponytails to avoid stress at the hairlines. Nighttime routines should always include covering hair with a satin cap or pillowcase

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How do you maintain your locs? Share your hair tips down below

From Medrooms To Boardrooms

“When asked, why I chose nursing, I often respond that nursing chose me. I worked my way from an EMT to an RN, BSN, Masters in nursing/Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, recently opened my private practice, and am currently working on obtaining a Doctorate in nursing.” This is an excerpt from my latest project “From Medrooms to Boardrooms”, a brief look into my journey to becoming an entrepreneur. In my upcoming book I share the story of my journey through my nursing career. It has been a journey filled with passion, tears and hope. This book features stories from 12 inspiring nurses as they share their stories of triumph. Available now on Amazon and kindle.



January’s Book Review

So, one of my New Year’s resolutions is to dedicate time to read at least one book a month. Here is the review for my book for January.

Brainwashed: Challenging the Myth of Black Inferiority by Tom Burrell
Published by SmileyBooks; 1 edition (February 1, 2010)
Paperback: 283 pages
Source: Purchased from Amazon for $11.99

This book not only challenges the narrative of inferiority of African Americans in the US, but also provides an interesting analysis of the “brainwashing” that has infected the psyches of many African Americans. It breaks down how deep rooted insecurities  reaching back to the days of slavery still has a grasp on Black Americans today.

Burrell shows how words and images in music and the media have been used for years to manipulate how blacks are viewed in this country and subsequently how many of us have unconsciously viewed ourselves. While many will argue that racist media propaganda died with the end of the Jim Crow era, Burrel breaks down how mainstream news outlets today still focus heavily on the negative aspects of the African American life, while at the same time ignoring or downplaying our contributions. From the damning portrayal of light skinned black women as sex vixens in music videos to black comedians  and their jokes on serious issues of dysfunction such as “bitch black women, deadbeat dads, bad ass kids and battling black parents”.

If he has done nothing else, Burrel gets the audience thinking and perhaps starting to devise solutions to changing the way blacks perceive themselves and eventually how others perceive us.

I would highly recommend this book to any individual that wants to be enlightened.

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If anyone is interested, I will be reselling my copy (used, with normal wear and tear) for $7.99 +shipping and handling.

Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Him

Guys can be tricky to buy gifts for, especially on such a holiday as Valentine’s Day. If you want to get him something besides candy and stuffed animals, there are plenty of other, more unique guy-friendly options to look out for. Just in case you’re having a little trouble deciding what that perfect gift might be, here are a few suggestions.

1. Beard essentials


The internet is raving with the hashtag #BeardGang. If your special guy is sporting a trendy beard or goatee, help him tame his with all-natural beard oils, scented with organic essential oils. The Mod Cabin offers a variety of soaps and oils as well as grooming accessories. A lot of guys don’t know what tools to use when starting their beard journey, so give him a jump start.

2. Cuff links


You know how girls gets really excited when they receive a bracelet with his name on it?  Have him walk around with your heart on his sleeves, literally, with a pair of personalized cufflinks. You can choose to only engrave his or go the distance with a combination of both your initials.

3. Wireless headphones

A pair of wireless headphones are essential for those intense days at the gym, long commutes home or for the avid gamer. If you want to make it all the way to “wife/girlfriend of the year” make him a playlist of all his favorite songs since high school.


4. Tickets to See His Favorite Sports Team


If he is like my guy and loves all forms of sports, get him a StubHub gift card and let him pick the game.


For other last minute gift ideas head over to ManCrates where you are almost guaranteed to find that perfect gift for any occasion for the special guy(s) in your life.

Guys, what are some great gifts you’ve received? comment below

10 Ways to Keep That Smile Bright

1. Take Good Care of Your Toothbrush

Maintaining your toothbrush is an important part of having a healthy smile.
Take care of your toothbrush. Organisms that are removed from your mouth and teeth tend to thrive in dark, moist environments.In order to prevent overgrowth of these germs on the brush, rinse it well after brushing and store it in an upright position open to the air in order to keep it dry. Replace brushes frequently. The American Dental Association recommends replacing toothbrushes every three to four months, although with children you may need to change them sooner. Keep an eye out for frayed, worn bristles.

2. Don’t forget your tongue

Brushing your tongue is equally as important as your teeth. Brushing your tongue helps fight the bacteria in your mouth. Tongue brushing is not only essential for keeping your teeth healthy, but it also helps to stop bad breath. Try using a toothbrush with a cheek and tongue cleaner.

3. Gargle

Using the traditional Listerine helps control the growth of organisms and prevent bad breath. Another great alternative is gargling apple cider vinegar. Do this in the morning and then brush as usual for healthy teeth. The vinegar helps help remove stains, whiten teeth, and kill bacteria in your mouth and gums.

4.Baking Soda/Hydrogen peroxide

The home remedies of brushing baking soda and rinsing with hydrogen peroxide works so well: a few toothpaste companies have started adding them as activated ingredients in their products. Baking soda removes stains and whitens your teeth. Use it just as you would toothpaste. I started using activated charcoal last year which has the same consistency and it works great.

5.Consistent Brushing

Brush your teeth a minimum of two times per day, preferably in the morning when you get out of bed and at bedtime in the evening. They’re the two most crucial times, because saliva (which keeps cavity-causing plaque off teeth) dries up at night, so it’s best to have all plaque cleaned off the teeth before sleep. It’s also important to brush first thing in the morning to brush off plaque and bacteria (morning breath!) that may have built up as you slept.

6. Visit Your Dentist Regularly

With social media and everyone constantly taking pictures of themselves, we may become consumed with having pearly whites and forget the overall health of our teeth. Before you go out and buy a pack of white strips or set up an appointment for hyper-whitening with your local dentist, make sure everything else is taken care of, health-wise. Visit your dentist for routine check-ups and cleanings at least twice a year.

7. Avoid Stains on your White Canvas

You’ve probably already heard that coffee and red wine stain teeth, but they’re certainly not the only culprits. There are plenty of other foods and drinks that can stain your teeth such as:

  • white wine
  • blueberries
  • blackberries
  • pomegranates
  • soda
  • barbecue sauce
  • green tea
  • black tea
  • sugary treats
  • marinara
  • curry
  • turmeric
  • paprika
  • balsamic vinegarred-couple-night-romantic

8. Banana Rub

You can use the inside of a banana peel, which is rich in potassium, magnesium, manganese, and other minerals. Once the minerals are absorbed into the enamel, they help keep teeth their whitest and healthiest.  After you brush and floss, peel a ripe banana and then rub a piece on your teeth for two minutes. Rinse and repeat again before bed.bananas

9. Oil Pulling

Oil pulling is essentially swishing oil around the mouth and using it like a mouthwash. Coconut oil contains fatty acids that are broken down into teeth whitening enzymes when they come in contact with human saliva. In order to oil pull, you put a tablespoon of oil in your mouth, then swish it around for 15-20 minutes. When you swish the oil around your mouth, the bacteria get stuck in it and dissolve in the liquid oil. Making it easier to remove stains upon brushing and rinsing.


10. In-office Procedures

To get the fastest and most dramatic results, in-office is the preferred option. Dentists and dental hygienists are able to use stronger agents that quickly and effectively whiten teeth. You can actually see results within an hour, sometimes 10 shades lighter in a single session.  Some in office procedures include:

  • Laser Teeth Whitening

A syringe will be used to apply the whitening solution to your teeth alone, avoiding contact with the gums. Then use a small laser to activate the formula, and the compound will foam as it lifts the stains from your teeth. Once all the teeth have been whitened, the dentist will let the solution remain for a few minutes before wiping it off with a small vacuum. This will run you approximately $400

  • Custom Bleaching Trays
    Unlike the generic trays we use at home, a customized mold of your teeth is taken in order to create the trays that will provide a uniform coverage for the whitening gel. In-office whitening treatments also use a much higher concentration of hydrogen peroxide (home treatments use about 5% whereas professional treatments use up to 43%). Your dentist will then seat the tray firmly against your teeth, wiping off any excess gel. Your dentist will keep the tray on your teeth anywhere from 30-60 minutes before removing it and cleaning your teeth. This will run you approximately $800

What’s the secret to your bright smile? comment below.