On May 9th 1914, Thomas Woodrow Wilson, the 28th President of the United States, declared the second Sunday of May as a national holiday as, “a public expression of our love and reverence for the mothers of our country.”
So this poses the question, should we not express love and reverence for our mothers on any other day of the year?
For those who have a genuine relationship with their mothers, a day that is solely dedicated to force expression is not necessary. Unfortunately, Mother’s Day has become like almost every other holiday in the US-commercialized. Similar to Valentine’s Day when driving down the road you can find makeshift flower stands at every corner, and just like Valentine’s Day is this not just another day set aside to do something we should be doing every day. To honor those who mean the world to us, and to thank them for all their love and support.
to complicate matters further…
Although mothers are ideally depicted as loving and nurturing this unfortunately is not always the case. There are also those who do not have any connection with their mom, whether it be due abuse, abandonment or neglect but are made to feel judged for not wanting to celebrate at all.
The entire day is a celebration of women who are able to bear children, however this excludes women who have not given birth or are unable to, and may cause them to feel as though they have failed as a woman. In the 21st century, womanhood should not rely solely on childbirth. The fact that a woman may not want to or is unable to have children should not classify her as inferior.
Additionally, the pain of one who have lost a mother is unimaginable. Consider this, a friend who lost her mother a few years back and every Mother’s Day she becomes isolative and withdrawn. She does not go to work, church and tries to avoid coming outside altogether as the pain of seeing everyone celebrating this holiday, or worst being asked what did she “do” for her mother on that day is a stab at an already deep wound.
This post is not to bash those who celebrate Mother’s Day, but while celebrating I think we should make a conscious effort of being aware that for many, this is a difficult day. Most of us know someone who has lost a mom, a child or are battling with infertility. A small gesture, a text, a call to acknowledge the pain that they may be facing on this very special day will go a long way.
The family unit is a complex matter that reaches far deeper than the pursuit of big business for profit. Life is too short to wait for one commercial day.
Hold those you love close and celebrate every day, as tomorrow is promised to no one, and only fools rely solely on tomorrow.
What do you guys think? Has Mother’s Day become too commercialized? Do you know someone who suffers a great deal on that day? Comment below.